Comment Policy

I want my home to be a peaceful place, amidst the chaos that is child rearing.

I want my home to be a place of friendship, respect and lively discussion, where all sincerely-expressed opinions are heard. 

I want it to be full of love and laughter, occasionally so much laughter that you horkle soda out your nose.

I want it to be a place to unload burdens and feel like you are really listened to, where we can cry together and uplift each other.

I want a home where anyone can feel safe, safe from pointless contention, safe from excessive bad language* or explicit sexual innuendo.

I also want people to come into my home and feel safe from judgment.  You don’t have to be just like me to be appreciated.  In fact, I enjoy the differences. is my home on the internet and I have the same desires for this site.  When you leave a comment, please follow the general tone you find here.  If you have something to express that goes completely against the DYM MO, feel free to write it up on your own blog and send me a link.  I enjoy visiting many homes and blogs that are very different from my own and when I come to your site, I can choose whether to stay or go.

Please feel free to share your honest opinions as we’re discussing things.  I didn’t set this site up to be a rah-rah fan club of mutual agreement.  Just be respectful. I am not however a huge fan of extensive political, religious, or other forms of heated debate. It’s just not my thing.

I reserve the right to delete any comment that is extremely offensive or viciously attacks me or one of my readers, but will leave an explanatory comment in its place so you know when I am censoring.

If you are an obvious troll, I reserve the right to delete you without explanation.

*I currently have a comment language filter up on my site, which filters out words I would not feel comfortable using or hearing in my home.

My site is set up to automatically close comments on any post over 60 days old so that I’m not monitoring comments on old posts forever and ever.

12 Responses to Comment Policy

  1. erika says:

    What a great site. Thanks for your stories, they are fabulous. Also, as a survivor of PPA myself, bless you for even talking about it, so much of PP is just getitng it OUT THERE.

  2. craig says:


    After much prodding by my wife’s friends I’ve finally started a blog (life and times of a dad with 4 daughters). I couldn’t help but notice how well your blogs have taken off over the years. I was wondering if you could offer some tips or even suggest a contact or two to help reach a similar audience (parents etc.). Regardless, your input would be appreciated. My site is, if you have the time.

  3. Thank you for your support of my blog and your loyal readers taking a peek, too! I feel compelled to pass along my most recent blog post. The date rape drug is finding its way into beverages of all kinds across America. I was shocked to recently learn that two friends were victims of this crime in the past six months It has nothing to do with bars or alcohol, as I know many of your readers are LDS. These tiny odorless pills are finding their way into any liquid that will dissolve a pill. I want women and girls to be empowered to own their safety and not be another victim. Jules

    • Thanks for posting this here. I hope many people will read it and follow the link to your blog. My senior project at BYU was a documentary on rape and sexual assault so I’m well aware of the problem. It happens in any community and we all need to understand it.

  4. I was emailed this site by a friend in all honest I have to say I loved your comments regarding “Drop of Awesome”. How often I put myself down feeling less and less perfect because I could have/should have done more or sooner! It’s one step at a time and I thank you for reminding me of this. It was brought to my attention recently how some members in the ward can feel invisible. I’ve thought about this a lot because I sure don’t want to embarrass anyone including me. I’m thinking one little drop of “Hi, how are you?” maybe just the drop of awesome they need anyway it’s worth a try. Thank you.

  5. Kathy Murphy says:

    Thank you for your voice of goodness in a confused and strange world. I am the mother of 6 grown children and grandmother of 21! I loved your “Drops of Awesome” sent to me by a dear friend. I share your love of and belief in the gosepel of Jesus Christ and the importance of the atonement! You are a “light unto the world.” Thank you!

  6. Jennifer Jones says:

    This response is actually to your “Drops of Awesome” post, but I couldn’t find a place to comment. I hope you don’t mind my out of place reply. 😉
    After having a particularly horrible week, a friend of mine directed me to your post. It was exactly what I needed to hear at the time, and I read it no less than 15 times after that initial reading. I don’t think I ever made it all the way through without tearing up!
    Anyway, I serve in the Relief Society presidency in my ward and my time to teach was rapidly approaching. Every time I tried to plan a lesson, this post entered my mind. I kept pushing it aside, certain that everybody had already read it. Finally, I relented and listened to what the Spirit was trying to tell me. I was most impressed that I HAD to use your object lesson with my ladies. Of course, a room full of 40 women is different than a group of young ladies, so I had to adapt it a little. I handed out large craft sticks with “I am AWESOME” printed on them and had 2 other members of the presidency sit up front at the ready with their droppers. I instructed the sisters in my class to raise their stick each time they remembered a “drop” that needed to be added. I chose to focus the lesson more toward our self-worth and self-speak in relation to how the Savior and our Father want us to treat ourselves. At the end, when I began pouring the pitchers in, several sisters gasped. It struck a chord with every sister in that room! I had so many ladies approach me afterward to thank me for the timely lesson. I actually didn’t even get out of the room until 15 minutes after class got over because so many people wanted to speak to me. I told them that the lesson was not mine and I knew that I needed to thank you for them. So, in behalf of the Ammon 5th Ward, Thank you for sharing such a tender lesson from your heart!

  7. Katie Beck says:

    Thanks & keep up the great work. Congrats on your book deal too! My friend shared a link from your blog & I’ve enjoyed the posts I read. Best of luck!

  8. Courtney says:

    Hello – this is probably the wrong place to post, but I couldn’t see how to leave a comment at the bottom of the “Little Drops of Awesome” post, but just wanted to let you know how much it has meant to me in my life. It was EYEOPENING to think about my minutes/hours/days in that light and I have referred many friends to it over the past year (I just googled it now so I could send a link to a new mom, which is why I’m at your blog!) I have not read anything else by you (I’m too scattered to “follow” any blogs), but I wanted to THANK YOU for making such an impact in my life. You are awesome. (big drops/borderline deluge).

  9. Bob says:

    In response to Hello Calgary:
    I caught a Simpsons episode about this, where Springfield discovers its song is the song of several other cities (including Calgary).

  10. Jennifer McDermott says:

    I, too wanted to leave this comment on “Drops of Awesome,” but the comment section is, of course, closed, per this comment policy. I have had your post in my mind and heart since I reposted it on my facebook page last week. It really is inspired and such a good reminder to look at the good things we do and not just the bad. I was reading the Ensign from this month when what should I find but this poem. I had to share it here.

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